Sebagai seorang yang terkadang suka me-misterius-kan diri, membaca hasil dari tes di 16personalities.com membuatku hanya bisa “wow bener!” atau “gokil sih serius…” dan “oh ternyata begini ya.” Meskipun banyak kesesuaian, tetap saja ada beberapa poin yang kurang sesuai. Toh setiap orang memang berbeda, tidak ada satupun yang persis sama. Lagipula kepribadian terbentuk tidak hanya bawaan diri, tapi juga dari FoR dan FoE. Jenis-jenis kepribadian seperti ENFP dan MBTI lain hanya teori untuk mengklasifikasikan kecenderungan dalam bersikap. Kompleksnya penjelasan tetang sikap-sikap tersebut, dibuatlah istilah untuk memudahkan. Sejauh ini, penjelasan yang kurang sesuai, sebagai berkut:
- Very Popular? Serius nih strengthnya ini? Malah yang sering aku rasakan “It’s okay, no one knows me. No one will notice. No one will remember. So just do it.” It’s like a mantra for me whenever I want to do what other people won’t, because they’re too afraid or too shy.
- Penjelasan di Get Stressed Easily dapat dibenarkan, bila melihat aku yang dulu. Namun, aku yang sekarang cukup lelah untuk say yes to everything and everyone. Hal tersebut hanya berlaku pada orang-orang dekat dengan keadaan mood yang sedang baik.
- Pada Highly Emotional bagian productive as best, aku malah merasa kalau stress or under pressure, kecenderungannya akan menghindari hal tersebut. Apabila itu sebuah kewajiban, aku akan tetap menyelesaikannya sampai tuntas dengan mengurangi kontak yang tidak perlu.
- Kalimat terakhir pada Independent to a Fault, it seems to tell us that “ENFP is a rebel and they won’t obey the rules.” I always attempt to do what they (ruler, religion, parents) order me to do. I may tend to be a rebel, but I know the limitation of my actions. I love balance, I love peace.
- Curious – When it comes to new ideas, ENFPs aren’t interested in brooding – they want to go out and experience things, and don’t hesitate to step out of their comfort zones to do so. ENFPs are imaginative and open-minded, seeing all things as part of a big, mysterious puzzle called life.
- Observant – ENFPs believe that there are no irrelevant actions, that every shift in sentiment, every move, and every idea is part of something bigger. To satisfy their curiosity, ENFPs try to notice all of these things and to never miss a moment.
- Energetic and Enthusiastic – As they observe, forming new connections and ideas, ENFPs won’t hold their tongues – they’re excited about their findings, and share them with anyone who’ll listen. This infectious enthusiasm has the dual benefit of giving ENFPs a chance to make more social connections, and of giving them a new source of information and experience, as they fit their new friends’ opinions into their existing ideas.
- Excellent Communicators – It’s a good thing that ENFPs have such strong people skills, or they’d never express these ideas. ENFPs enjoy both small talk and deep, meaningful conversations, which are just two sides of the same coin for them, and are adept at steering conversations towards their desired subjects in ways that feel completely natural and unforced.
- Know How to Relax – It’s not all “nature of the cosmos” discussions with ENFPs – people with this personality type know that sometimes, nothing is as important as simply having fun and experiencing life’s joys. That Intuitive trait lets ENFPs know that it’s time to shake things up, and these wild bursts of enthusiastic energy can surprise even their closest friends.
- Very Popular and Friendly – All this adaptability and spontaneity comes together to form a person who is approachable, interesting and exciting, with a cooperative and altruistic spirit and friendly, empathetic disposition. ENFPs get along with pretty much everyone, and their circles of friends stretch far and wide.
- Poor Practical Skills – When it comes to conceiving ideas and starting projects, especially involving other people, ENFPs have exceptional talent. Unfortunately their skill with upkeep, administration, and follow-through on those projects struggles. Without more hands-on people to help push day-to-day things along, ENFPs’ ideas are likely to remain just that – ideas.
- Find it Difficult to Focus – ENFPs are natural explorers of interpersonal connections and philosophy, but this backfires when what needs to be done is that TPS report sitting right in front of them. It’s hard for ENFPs to maintain interest as tasks drift towards routine, administrative matters, and away from broader concepts.
- Overthink Things – ENFPs don’t take things at face value – they look for underlying motives in even the simplest things. It’s not uncommon for ENFPs to lose a bit of sleep asking themselves why someone did what they did, what it might mean, and what to do about it.
- Get Stressed Easily – All this overthinking isn’t just for their own benefit – ENFPs, especially Turbulent ones, are very sensitive, and care deeply about others’ feelings. A consequence of their popularity is that others often look to them for guidance and help, which takes time, and it’s easy to see why ENFPs sometimes get overwhelmed, especially when they can’t say yes to every request.
- Highly Emotional – While emotional expression is healthy and natural, with ENFPs even viewing it as a core part of their identity, it can come out strongly enough to cause problems for this personality type. Particularly when under stress, criticism or conflict, ENFPs can experience emotional bursts that are counter-productive at best.
- Independent to a Fault – ENFPs loathe being micromanaged and restrained by heavy-handed rules – they want to be seen as highly independent masters of their own fates, even possessors of an altruistic wisdom that goes beyond the draconian law. The challenge for ENFPs is that they live in a world of checks and balances, a pill they are not happy to swallow.